Embracing Imperfection: A Personal Journey
Tonia Tonia

Embracing Imperfection: A Personal Journey

I am an imperfect human being. As a perfectionist, those words sometimes feel like sandpaper on my tongue. But they're true + they're powerful. It's a daily practice to allow myself to be human, to make mistakes, to be okay with forgetting to do that one thing. And while admitting it to myself is tough enough, saying it out loud is scary. Yet I've learned that voicing these vulnerabilities isn't just therapeutic—it creates space for others to breathe, to soften + to acknowledge their own journey too…

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From Unsubscribing To Thriving
Tonia Tonia

From Unsubscribing To Thriving

We often hear about how unsubscribing can calm the noise in our inboxes, reduce our screen time + put cash back in our hands from memberships we rarely use. But what about unsubscribing from parts of life that are unhealthy? The ones that no longer benefit you + clutter your time? Below are 10 things I’ve unsubscribed from to make my life more full, spacious + lovely. Because I am an imperfect human, every day is a practice in self-love. Sometimes I fall back on old habits. When that happens, I allow myself the grace to try again tomorrow.

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5 Key Takeaways from Launching My Wellness Coaching Program
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5 Key Takeaways from Launching My Wellness Coaching Program

Recently, I created a 3-month holistic wellness coaching program designed to encompass all aspects of health, including those we often overlook or avoid.

Here are some lessons I learned during this process. These insights are relevant not only to the coaching industry but also to working with teams + others in professional + sometimes personal settings.

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Intentions, Not Resolutions
Tonia Tonia

Intentions, Not Resolutions

Welcome to the beginning of 2024. This is the time of year that everyone is either finalizing their resolutions for the year, or fiercely putting them into practice.

Let's take a moment, however, to contemplate the essence of resolutions. By definition, a resolution is a resolute decision to either pursue or abstain from a particular course of action. It's unwavering. Yet, as I've found through personal experience, resolutions often set us up for disappointment. Despite our best intentions, they can become burdensome tasks, leading to frustration when they don't unfold as expected, even if circumstances are beyond our control.

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Dear Person That Just Wants to Help
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Dear Person That Just Wants to Help

Dear Person That “Just Wants to Help,”

You’ve seen my social media posts about the food journey I’ve been on. The beautifully plated dishes and the snacks I love.

I wasn’t asking for your advice, but you decided to mention that I should be eating all plant-based foods, that I eat too much, and that I really need to start on the fashion diet you’ve been on.

I wanted to let you know that I’m ignoring your comment, and that I find it biased and full of wellness myths that only bring us down. I work really hard to keep myself healthy, and my diet is a discussion between myself and my care team. I’ll have ice cream if I want to.

I wish you had shown some empathy instead, or said nothing at all.

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Normalization. Or Lack Thereof.
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Normalization. Or Lack Thereof.

Image description: Photo of a pink lined post-it note against a wood grain backdrop. The post-it is titled “To Do” and lists three items: shower, groceries, and try not to spiral.

I had a bit of a profound thinking moment earlier this week. It happened in conjunction with another moment in which I realized I hadn’t fully thought through a situation and, as a result, I had to last minute scramble to find an alternate way to approach what I needed to do.

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how the hell did I get here?
Tonia Tonia

how the hell did I get here?

Image Description: Black and white selfie/headshot of myself with a bald head from chemotherapy.

Today is day number 281 since my stem cell transplant in January of this year. It’s a number I could tell you on any given day. It’s a number that comes up at most of my oncology appointments. I’ve been tied to this number for a long time. And I’ve been invested in the numbers of my cancer friends as well.

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